Did you ever hear the old song "I & # 39; m a Woman" written by songwriters Leiber and Stoller and sung by Peggy Lee? How many of us are still trying to be the "super" woman she sang about back in the 1960s?
I & # 39; m a W - OMA N
I can rub & scrub this old house till it & # 39; s shinin & # 39; like a dime
Feed my baby, grease the car, and powder my face at the
same time
Get all dressed up, go out and swing til 4 am and then
Lay down at 5, jump up at 6, and start all over again
& # 39; Cause I & # 39; m a woman! WOMAN, I & # 39; ll say it again ...
There are many women (and men) today who are struggling to juggle, family, career, home and social activities. If you are, most likely you are feeling over committed, overworked, overwhelmed, guilty, and too exhausted to do justice to anyone or anything.
The term superwoman was created by author, Marjorie Hansen Shaevitz who wrote the book, The Superwoman Syndrome, published in 1984 "for women trying to do it all." Superwomen always put others first and tend to set standards that are far beyond reasonable. they are more responsibilities and roles as if "more" somehow makes them better. On the other hand, there are women who are only handling one role but Those who are setting and relentlessly pursuing impossible goals are inevitably headed towards underlining both their physical and mental health.
Who are the Superwomen?
They are mothers, working professionals, educators, college students, community organizers, activists, volunteers and socialites. Supernatural Syndrome can affect anyone. Despite varying in intensity, it affects women at different ages, at different careers. Some reports show that girls as young as 13 suffer from Superwoman Syndrome.
Even though they willingly carry huge loads, they are generally unhappy about their situation and how they are they are are super strong people, they are highly responsible, duty-oriented, and have a strong desire to give. living their lives. Not seeing any way, not seeing any way, insecure childcare resources and non-supporting spouses. to lighten their loads, they often feel trapped and secretly resent others who have been able to escape from the relentless demands being made on them.
Recovering from Super Woman Syndrome
For over-committed, over burdened people, over burdened people, living a simpler life seems like an impossible goal. It starts with a conscious choice to get off the treadmill.The following are a few questions you need to ask yourself.
• Why am I able to say no to others?
• Who put me in charge of the world?
• What is taking on more and more duties and responsibilities doing for me?
• Are there other people who can share some of these responsibilities with me and am I willing to ask them?
• What am I really willing to let go of and delegate?
There are other people steps to be taken as well. I am responsible for everything "attitude, it is imperative to examine and re-define what you are truly responsible for and what are you.
Give Up Perfectionism - Unless you are Martha Stewart or are planning to entertain the Queen, your house does not have to be spiffy and neat 24 hours a day. Neither do all your meals have to be perfectly balanced among the four main groups groups an occasional pizza or bag of burgers is not going to cause malnutrition.
Learn to express yourself - feelings and beliefs without anger, feeling defensive, or being disrespectful of the rights or opinions. If you find this difficult or impossible to do, consider taking an assertiveness Training course.
Avoid the advice givers, those who used guilt to control you, and those who think you should solve all problems.
Are you absolutely certain you have thought of everything? Brainstorm Your Options - Even if you think you have a way out of any way? Two heads are better than one, and some ideas. Who are managing to live their lives well and ask how they doing it. They may offer solution you have never considered or resources you never even knew about.
Some things are just going to be out of your hands no matter what you do, so stay focused on what you Can not control, not what you can not.
Have coffee or lunch with friends; read a good book. The mental rejuvenation you feel is worth far more than any time you think you may have lost.
